My gram used to say that our own grief is the worst grief, unless we're able to let go.
After my daughter died, 2 days after she was born, I experienced exactly what she'd told me.
The world stopped to exist and all I could do is think about her.
But then I was told about a mother who died during childbirth and I realised that not far from us a baby had to grow up without his mother.
In fact this opened up my grief and I realised I was one in the long line of mothers who had to live with a dead child in her personal history and her family history.
This has formed me for life.
Whenever I experience something I realise I'm one of all those people who experience the same.
It's not the grief which is most important, it's how we deal with it.
